Monday, August 11, 2014
Am i in the right relationship?
I am sure each person would have wondered at least once if they were in the right relationship? This is not to refer only to mate relationships but yes, very often that is the relationship that we find ourselves questioning the most.
While growing up, we were told that opposites attract each other & hence are best suited for each other. As we begin to experience ourselves through relationships, however, the opposites don’t seem to be so “attractive” anymore as we spent our lives with them. Why is that so? If that was true then why were we guided to accept them?
Let me try and show this in another light. Ever been to a mirror to tie shoe laces? Not really I guess. Why? Because we can see our shoes and our shoes laces just by merely bending. So what do we go to a mirror for? We go to a mirror to see what we can’t see as clearly through our naked eye or maybe to get a better perspective. Similarly, those opposites that we tend to get drawn to, serve us as our mirrors in our evolution. They show us what we can’t see within or maybe what we need a better / higher perspective on. This way, they serve our growth in a big way & allow us to become better & more accepting individuals. However, it’s not so easy to live with them. When the mirror shows us something we’d rather look away from, it’s not easy to accept it as us. We are quick to blame, to resent & to believe what we chose for ourselves was indeed the “wrong” relationship.
Whatever we experience, good or bad, has a reason to exist in our lives and till we have learnt what it came to teach us, it stays & at times bothers us too. While in a relationship, it’s important to see what we are “being” while we are living that relationship. If a relationship is our biggest desire but while living it, we are mostly fearful of losing it, then we are “being” fear through it. On the other hand, a relationship which is abusive & we resent & hate it, while we mostly spend our time reminding us of our power & ability to deal with it, then we are being “empowered” through it. So from a higher perspective, both are serving us to show us something about us & also moving us towards self realisation. Once we align ourselves to witnessing ourselves while we are in any relationship, we can slowly understand & appreciate it’s purpose.
Understanding that something you don’t want / like has a purpose doesn’t really end the concern. The next step is to resolve / heal the relationship. For this, one can identify the reasons for why they attracted this relationship at a sub-conscious level through Serenity Surrender (SS) or Past Life Regression(PLR). Once done, these techniques are therapeutic and can help release the negativity in a situation / relationship / person & allow them to live in more empowered life.
Posted by amit kumar