Sunday, March 14, 2010

Love & Relationships

Recently, a few regression experiences & personal events triggered me to write this one. When two people love each other, romantically or in any other way, the love gives each of them something to hold on to and we all are aware of that feeling. Slowly, for some reason when the love starts distancing and other things crop up which could be compatibility problems, ego tussles or anything that does not help the relationship…there are usually 2 ways where the relationship goes. Please note that here I am not talking about relationships where people stick by each other anyway, only by means of commitment. I am talking about relationships where both people have the freedom to make their choices with regards to the relationship.



The first way is that both people have the attachment or love and yet struggle to survive together because of the negative emotions getting deposited in their bodies. In this case, the struggle and yet can’t get over each other sub-consciously and they keep bumping into each other on their journey of life. In this case, usually the lesson is to overcome the karmic pattern that they have been coming together with and mostly, stay with each other.

There is this other type of love, which I have slowly realized also exists in when one person moves on and is completely out of a relationship and yet one of them is still hanging on. This is also a karmic pattern coming from somewhere and many times I have noticed that the one who is still stuck could actually be stuck due to an underlying emotional attachment which one is mistaking for love. Here are two examples of these. I had a case in which there were two people who at one point loved each other but after one bit of life situation that brought suffering to the woman and the man couldn’t standup for her due to his own circumstances, their love took a different turn. The man disassociated completely because for him this woman was the source of pain,guilt and fear for him and the woman felt an overwhelming emotion of protectiveness towards the guy where she just knew thoughts like “he needs me”, “he can’t do without me”, “something will go wrong if I am not with him”. When I first encountered her as my client, I was not sure if these emotions were real of it was her ego that was getting stuck in her. When we went into a regression, we found that they had been through a life situation in a past life where she was responsible for protecting him and while doing that she was molested. The boy couldn’t help her for he was too young and yet felt guilt and shame for she was suffering because of him. It’s strange but all her thoughts about protecting him were coming from there. Ever since she saw this, the realization dawned that more than obsessive love, it was that emotion of protecting her that was causing the havoc and ever since, she doesn’t feel the compelling need to be next to him anymore. In fact, it’s been a few weeks and she is not even sure if she will feel that kind of love anymore. This was a classic case of a different underlying emotion which people mistake for love and hangon for a long time. I wouldn't say the future or destiny of this couple can be predicted by this because depending on the type of connection and the depth they have carried for lifetimes, it might yet be the case of being together and yet first clearing the karma deposited over lifetimes but when the intense pain goes away from a relationship, staying with unconditional love, raises one to higher level of consciousness and opens doors to the spiritual insights.

Another example was between a father and a son where the father didn’t trsut the child enough and yet the child kept saying I love my father too much and I can’t tolerate anything against him. After regression we found out that the underlying emotion was to prove to the father that he was wrong and he was right that was attracting him to be attached to him. The attachment was an overwhelming need of his ego to show that “I am good enough. I always was.”

I don’t know if some of you can identify with these situations but just thought I’d share and see if it makes sense because slowly I have started realizing that emotions can really mess up lives when they are not understood correctly.

14 comments:

  1. RESPECTED MADAM,
    YOU ARE RIGHT.THESE OVERWHELMING EMOTIONS LEAD US TOWARDS EMPTY.I THINK ALL THESE HAPPENS BECAUSE OF THINKING ERRORS. TIME CAN BE COLLAPSED BY ANALYSING ANY WRONG THOUGHT IN THE LIGHT OF TRUTH AND MAKING IT CORRECT AND BALANCED TO AVOID THE MISTAKE IN FUTURE.ALL THE CAUSES ARE BECAUSE OF THINKING ERRORS AND HENCE BRINGING PAINFUL EFFECTS.IF WE CORRECT OUR THINKING IN THE TRUTH OF DIVINE,THEN ALL THE CAUSES BECAUSE OF WRONG THINKING MUST FLY WITH THE EFFECTS.
    AND EVERY MISTAKEN THOUGHT WILL CAUSE TO FEAR WHILE EVERY CORRECT THOUGHT BRINGS LOVE AND COURAGE.SATYAM SHIVAM SUNDERAM.
    ALL ABOVE IS JUST MY BELIEF AND OPINION FOR OTHERS. IT HELPED ME A LOT WITH JOY AND HARMONY.
    RAKESH GOEL.

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  2. i agree with you Minal...mostly 90% of love is not so called Love...they are mere "emotional attachment" maybe as you said out of pastlife karmic patterns...and if the other partner is out of the relation...not because he is out of love but if he has understood or experienced that true love is never "emotional"...you are in love even if you are not emotional or attached with the other person...or to be precise you can love ONLY when you are not emotionally attached...the love becomes universal and then there is no reason to love just ONE person...wife or husband...you are at a stage when you love anyone and everyone as the "reasons" to love cease to exist and it becomes unconditional...

    but then again it gets so difficult for other people to understand such love as everyone does not go through pastlife regression and thus the other partner who is still hanging onto the relaionship sufferes and feels that his partner nomore loves him/her...then the relationship becomes a mess of insecurities...

    How i wish everyone could get that deeper understanding of love to make the world a better place...

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  3. minal . i m impressed to see this face of ur personality.God bless.

    concluding line is the essence "emotions can really mess up lives when they are not understood correctly".
    now everybody who argues has the feeling he /she is telling the very deep truth but some how ppl r not understanding.
    so who will decide who is correct.?
    ultimately i conclude. analysis of emotions for the sake of research may be there & is good but ultimately it will not giiv u much of solution but in take u to mess on ur every next concusion.conclusions keep on chaging u know.
    so finally my vu is - positive approach & meditataion of calmness & then self realisation will unknowingly help u to reach u the solutionsin any shere of the life.u will find things r solving. may b that is the help of GOD or ....

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  4. How do you differentiate between emotion, love, attachment ?

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  5. Is love continuation of emotional atyachar

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  6. Can't say anything else but; I agree with what you write here. I don't think we can get around the feelings we carry with us from previous lives. Great post!!

    Have a nice weekend - hugs!!

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  7. That's a tough one. How do you dis-associate love from emotions? Is'nt love all about emotions?? I don't think you can really say that once you overcome karmic patterns, you can truly love someone, because karma is such an integral part of us and our earth experience. It is not something which can just be left behind, simply because every second of every day we are creating new karma and this karma involves other people in it. It's just a matter of soul mates, who love each other as souls, manifesting on earth to learn, and the learning comes through LOVE. Hence, you can never seperate love, emotions and karma. It is just about recognizing negative patterns, learning from them and letting go of them...and that is where past life regression comes in. :)

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  8. It is difficult , to analyse , the emotionaL responses aptly unless you are trained in the area as a therapist having undergone a scientific traing .....

    I do hope minal is on right track and her patients are getting the right solutions.... in the area of emotion analysis basis PLR .....on a 100 hour therapy counselling .... I wish her and that basis past life hypnotic based , revelations .... If it is as clearly and correctly analysed , by Minal as mentioned in her write up , I will say ..... knowledge has advanced hugely in this arena..my best wishes to her and her patients /curious man power

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  9. Its true..... even i love a girl very much due to my emotional attachment and her innocent, childish, confident and care taking nature (which somewhere lack in me) but the truth is we are not going to engage due to our different community. She is muslim and i am hindu..... But still i am waiting for her and i am also attached to her religion..... Plz reply me with the link to remove the past karmic pattern related to love relationship

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  10. Please refer to www.healingcottage.in for further information on how to release your past for a better future. I also have the website www.pastlifeconnection.com for more details.

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  11. In regression therapy sessions it is quite common for people to identify a strong relationship and bond with another from a past life. These relationships are there to assist one another and over many lifetimes we try out many roles, often continuing to work with another soul to work through issues, experiencing them from many perspectives. If in Melbourne Australia, check out www.sanctuarywellness.com.au for more info.

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