Maybe suffering isn't good...it gives you hurt, it gives you pain but makes you look within...it leaves you to cry and yet watches you through it...it throws you in the dark and yet shows a light within...maybe it isn't a good thing but it does befriend you to move you on to where you ultimately wish to reach...know it or not!
Suffering is what makes one realize the presence of someone / something that is not in their control. It makes one think, retrospect, question...everything from their beliefs to their acts...because it places you where you need to give yourself some answers...they are not for anyone else to make you understand, it is not for anyone to help you with...it's about understanding yourself.
One might tend to blame others, analyse and give logics, throw a lot of questions and want a lot of answers, one might think they didn't deserve it and yet they are being punished, they might think it's unfair, some may cry yet some may hold back their tears...but it's important to understand that suffering is what shows you the way to enlightenment. Someone who has not failed, cannot understand the meaning of success and someone who has not suffered cannot understand the meaning of happiness.
One important thing to understand about suffering is that no other person can make you suffer...it's only you. If you don't want to suffer, you wont. Circumstances can remain unchanged but all that matters in the context. Suffering is a time of introspection, of looking within, feeling oneself from the inside...to understand oneself...to hear the soul's voice...to understand and appreciate the still left beauty and power of today...to love and accept whatever there is...without asking for more but being thankful for what is.