Monday, April 13, 2015

New Age Parenting



In today’s age, parenting consumes a lot of time for all those who have chosen to go through the experience. It’s not all rosy & involves a lot of stress, effort, money & even conflicts. I am not sure how many parents are actually able to enjoy parenting other than those few moments when the child gets highest marks or makes you a best parent greeting card. Mostly the concept of parenting is burdened with “responsibility” and this concept is so misunderstood in our energies that soon after the child is born, all the happiness and bliss is replaced with responsibility and stress.

Yes we have chosen to be responsible for another soul’s journey by bringing them to this planet but that’s not all. From the soul’s perspective, I have chosen to become a channel to facilitate the creation of another soul. Mind you, only a channel to facilitate. This soul might have been into different relationships with me in several lifetimes. In this lifetime, the sacred contract within me & my child is such that I will provide him / her with the right environment for it’s growth & facilitate the lessons it wishes to learn and in return, it will serve as a mirror to me for change. My child keeps me in touch with the changing energies of this planet.

When we see our children growing, there are times when what they think, believe or do is in conflict with our value system. At other times however, we see them making the same mistakes as us or carrying the same weaknesses as us. In both scenarios, we try to change them, to teach them the “right” way. This is why they are here. This is exactly why we chose them. They show us our inner conflicts in a physical manner. They trigger our inner conflicts and lead us to change. With age / time we develop belief systems like study is the only way to grow, or money is the most important thing in life, or fitness is all that can make you happy, or that god wants us to sacrifice and we just keep living them without realising when the era changes and there is need for change within us. This when parenting happens. Our children show us change in the society / culture / value system and they push us to accepting & embracing the new.

Those souls chosen as children, we have deep karmic links with and hence it’s tough to ignore them. The deeper our resistance to change, the deeper conflicts we experience with our parents or children.

If a mother comes to me saying my child is very weak in studies and cannot concentrate, please help her then I usually guide the mother to first do my healing workshop & learn to deal with herself and her belief system that gives her the understanding that without studying, her child will become unsuccessful. This isn’t to demean the value of knowledge in anyway but if the parent can address their fears that are presented through the child, in many cases if the child is too young and have not yet started living his own karma, the problem will be sorted by the parent healing themselves only. Further, if the child needs any healing, their energies can be worked upon too but since the parent has dealt with their fears & expectations, it allows the child soul to freely take a path that is for the highest best as per their plan. After all every soul isn’t here to do the same thing. Someone might need to be brilliant academically to reach where they have chosen to live their experiences while in other cases academic brilliance might be considered a hindrance & hence not required for whatever they have chosen to experience. What we fear for our children may mean something for us, which is why even parents of the same child do not fear the same for their child. They are focused at the aspect of self that the child reflects to them.

Responsibility does not mean we need to control the direction of the child. It just means we must be there to facilitate what’s needed by the child for their own growth. There are souls who have chosen to experience conflicts between parents in order to trigger their own internal conflicts with regards to marriage, society, mate, love, relationships also. I did mention in my book “Maaya: A tryst with self” that even though a child might be in a fragile body but it’s a whole & complete soul. It’s important to free our children of our own conflicted belief system & just guide them but not impose ourselves on them. Trust that the way you are connected with the source, so are they and they will also be guided to what’s best for them.


About the Author

Minal Arora: Minal is an Author, Therapist & Mentor. She teaches people on how to reflect on the basic idea of life from a spiritual perspective. She is also the author of the much talked about book ‘Maaya: A tryst with self’ which is an account on soulmate / twin soul relationships.  She practices New Age therapies like Past Life Regression (PLR) and Serenity through Surrender (SS) to resolve sub-consciously driven concerns and can be contacted through www.pastlifeconnection.com or www.healingcottage.in or by writing an email at minal@pastlifeconnection.com

Monday, August 11, 2014

Am i in the right relationship?

I am sure each person would have wondered at least once if they were in the right relationship? This is not to refer only to mate relationships but yes, very often that is the relationship that we find ourselves questioning the most.

While growing up, we were told that opposites attract each other & hence are best suited for each other. As we begin to experience ourselves through relationships, however, the opposites don’t seem to be so “attractive” anymore as we spent our lives with them. Why is that so? If that was true then why were we guided to accept them?

Let me try and show this in another light. Ever been to a mirror to tie shoe laces? Not really I guess.  Why? Because we can see our shoes and our shoes laces just by merely bending. So what do we go to a mirror for? We go to a mirror to see what we can’t see as clearly through our naked eye or maybe to get a better perspective. Similarly, those opposites that we tend to get drawn to, serve us as our mirrors in our evolution. They show us what we can’t see within or maybe what we need a better / higher perspective on. This way, they serve our growth in a big way & allow us to become better & more accepting individuals. However, it’s not so easy to live with them. When the mirror shows us something we’d rather look away from, it’s not easy to accept it as us. We are quick to blame, to resent & to believe what we chose for ourselves was indeed the “wrong” relationship.

Whatever we experience, good or bad, has a reason to exist in our lives and till we have learnt what it came to teach us, it stays & at times bothers us too. While in a relationship, it’s important to see what we are “being” while we are living that relationship. If a relationship is our biggest desire but while living it, we are mostly fearful of losing it, then we are “being” fear through it. On the other hand, a relationship which is abusive & we resent & hate it, while we mostly spend our time reminding us of our power & ability to deal with it, then we are being “empowered” through it. So from a higher perspective, both are serving us to show us something about us & also moving us towards self realisation. Once we align ourselves to witnessing ourselves while we are in any relationship, we can slowly understand & appreciate it’s purpose.

Understanding that something you don’t want / like has a purpose doesn’t really end the concern. The next step is to resolve / heal the relationship. For this, one can identify the reasons for why they attracted this relationship at a sub-conscious level through Serenity Surrender (SS) or Past Life Regression(PLR). Once done, these techniques are therapeutic and can help release the negativity in a situation / relationship / person & allow them to live in more empowered life.

For more details on healing, please refer to www.pastlifeconnection.com or write to Minal Arora at minal@pastlifeconnection.com

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Proof Of Past Life Memories Being Real

Many of you would be wondering if past lives are real. Can we actually experience our past lives? Sometimes we might even question, why experience past lives? Isn’t living in the present moment the best thing to do?

The answer to these questions lie in further questions. Are you sure you understand all that is happening in your life / relationships? Do we all not have the sense of the presence of a force that stops us at times when we are close to getting what we want or for that matter a force that allows us to have something which we hadn’t imagined? Yes, weather we are logical or scientific, doesn’t matter but the unresolved memories of our past always interfere in this moment. It’s like they are very much “alive” in this moment and hence whatever we do or feel, they are able to contribute to it at the sub-conscious level.

Here have been many instances where people have been able to go to their past and experience things which they were unaware of in the current life but they were validated to have existed. Sometimes people start speaking languages that they don’t know in this life and sometimes even ancient languages which are extinct on this planet too.

Dr Ian Stevenson, Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Virginia Medical School, has spent many years investigating claims by several children across the globe that they could recall a past life. Some of them could see dreams of places that were not in their current environment or absolutely foreign. Some of them will even know names, the way they died and maybe who killed them. Many such cases were reported from India itself. Many of these children were under the age of 5. He interviewed over four thousand children from the United States, England, Thailand, Burma, Turkey, Lebanon, Canada, India and other places, who claimed that they could remember a number of incidents from a past life.

He verified documents, letters, places, autopsy records, birth and death certificates, hospital records, photographs, newspaper reports and so much more. For many of them physical verification was done in both their current place of existence as well as where they claimed they were living earlier. He has written several books on the “suggestive reincarnation” topic.

The last thing to remember is, if we believe, it’s a whole new world to explore and we might find answers that we always looked for when we open up to the depths of our past. If we are a non-believer, then also, we will live those unresolved emotions / those fears that come from nowhere and those setbacks that are unexplained. It’s just that we can deny facing it as ourselves.
For more details on Past Life Regression Therapy, please refer to http://www.pastlifeconnection.com

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Past Life Regression – 7 Point Technique

When the topic is “Past lives”, well there are many who still believe that it’s unreal. Being a therapist of Past Life Regression, Minal Arora claims she receives cases on a daily basis that require and are healed through therapy while there are also people who want to undergo sessions for only finding out if it’s real that they can explore their past.

A few important points to be noted here are that regression is a process that usually uses hypnosis as a technique. Now the level of trance used in a regression is mild. It’s not that one will lose their consciousness etc like in stage hypnosis. This is clinical hypnosis which is very safe and very mild at the same time. The conscious mind is always at the background and it always is witnessing the process. Slowly as the story unfolds, the subject most likely will go into deeper level of trance where the conscious mind awareness lessens. However, this also depends on the past life being revealed, the depth of the memory. Sometimes, the interest level of the conscious mind can be low or there could be a resistance to experiencing something and hence it could interfere in the process. The success of a regression session is dependent on the level of trust & surrender that a subject can do both consciously & sub-consciously.

A few important points when you have booked a Past Life Regression Therapy Session with a therapist

1.    Always ensure that it’s a Past Life Regression “therapy” session. Taking someone into a past life is something that anyone trained in hypnosis can do, but handling the past life of a subject and guiding them to the right past lives for release plus the release mechanism used is very crucial.

2.    Ensure the therapist is trained in “Past Life Regression”.

3.    Do not expect anything from the session. PLRT is a release process and the release happens as the memory unfolds. How you will experience it externally on a conscious level or the amount of dramatics you will experience does not change anything in the release process. Be focused on the intent to release and trust it starts happening almost instantly as you reach the right level of trance.

4.    Trust your therapist to know what they are doing during the session. Sometimes, there are tricks that need to be used to pull out a memory or access some specifics or maybe even to experience a past life.

5.    Do not go for this therapy if you have money constraints. This is an expensive therapy and you will find therapists charging from 2000 INR an hour to 5000 INR an hour. Revealing a past life and healing it might take 3-4 hrs sometimes. If you are pressed for money, it means that sub-consciously there is already a need to derive value out of what you have spent . That expectation can put in fear / doubt in your session and bring disappointment. When you go for it, believe that there is nothing to lose.

6.    Remember that regression is a guided process and usually our spirit guides are guiding the session. Sometimes it’s called upon even to prepare a release where something might be so deep that it may fail to come-up in one go. When that happens, it’s also important and it helps the overall release process of a soul

7.    Trust & Surrender to your higher self. Just know that resolving past lives or the sub-conscious is a journey. Our unresolved past continuously impacts our present moment and a session will only initiate the journey. You must follow it through.

One excellent way of following up your spiritual journey which is more economical that Past Life Regression and has a much wider scope and effectiveness is using a therapy called “Serenity Surrender” or SS. If past life memories were put in a matrix of rows and columns, the rows are past lives and columns are emotions experienced. Regression will address it row by row which means you have to go through one past life and then another. SS will go emotion by emotion where you can resolve one emotion vertically across many lives. It’s extremely effective specially for people who are not good hypnotic subjects and carry fears / phobias / depression / relationship concerns etc.
For more information, please visit  http://www.pastlifeconnection.com

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

I was too busy to pay attention to my soul

This is what somebody said to me when they came to me for their first SS(Serenity Surrender) Healing Session. I laughed at both the irony & audacity of the statement. Later I realized we all do that, he was just brave enough to admit it. We live on an extremely beautiful planet 7 it has it’s charms. We have relationships, work & needs for self. 24 hrs a day isn’t enough & these days the speed at which time seems to get over, it feels not enough for all we wish to achieve an accomplish. In the midst of the struggle for the dream job or growing up on the succession ladder, in keeping one’s spouse & family happy, discussing news, taking care of social obligations and paying bills, where is the time to worry about the soul. When we can do without it, well, we might as well focus on what we can’t seem to do without. Isn’t that how we all thought once?

Now someday, for some this day comes much earlier in life & for some it may be much later but there is a realization slowly that seeps in, that what have I achieved in this life. When the rat race gets tiring, when success doesn't knock ones door or when success feels shallow, when they lose their most precious relationship or when loneliness makes them see an aspect of their reality that too much work couldn't hide, when there is an internal void, which doesn't seem to get filled with anything. When there is an inherent search for something. Some call it peace, some call it love, some call it happiness. With the extremely high energies of this planet, we all are going through an internal transition, inevitably so, in which no matter how engrossed we are, the focus is shifting to self. Till now, our evolution has happened through struggling through relationships, life situations & proving ourselves but that era is over now. The new energies aren't about proving ourselves but realizing that we were always what we are out to prove ourselves as. It is kind of a homecoming!

In this homecoming, anyone who believes looking within is a waste of time and may not be required is only under the illusion that they aren’t doing it already. Every moment that we live in our consciousness is our soul living through us. Each moment, the sub-conscious mind which the soul’s memory & processor is active and it is creating one’s life, in spite of them planning it in a completely different direction. It is just about when does one stop to look at their lives & realize they can’t make a choice to be experiencing their soul, since they are that but yes by choosing to look away from it, they only choose to struggle higher to learn their lessons in the physical world.

Every relationship, every life situation & every person only is here to show you what you can’t see for yourself but while you see it, if you are able to bring an understanding what they are trying to teach you about yourself, slowly, it’s an experience of immense empowerment & that inherent search finds it’s destiny!

About the Author -


Minal Arora is a renowned holistic healer & teacher who has been practicing & teaching therapy for many years. Her practice has helped countless many people who in turn have made impact in the lives of many people further as well. Should you wish to learn more, you are welcome to contact her through our official site; www.pastlifeconnection.com